Like any guy looking to have women approach you, you understand that how you look—while not the determining factor—will be taken into account.
I’m here to help give you a leg up on the competition and build a body worthy of notice—and approach.
And so, if your goal is simply to build a lean, symmetrical, attractive body that will turn heads and help make you even more desirable, read on—because I’ve got…
4 Awesome Tips to Help You in Your Quest
When it comes to being physically attractive to the opposite sex, it’s important to understand that certain body dimensions are visually important, from an evolutionary perspective.
Our progenitors credited desirable traits to corresponding physical attributes, which imply the presence of “mating qualifiers.” Put another way, they make you attractive to the opposite sex. important for increasing your stock with the ladies.
To that end, an X-shaped physique means: broad shoulders, a narrow waist, and strong, well-developed calves.
A narrow waist is primarily the result of a low level of body fat, which is beyond the scope of this article. For broad shoulders, focus on basic movements that allow for maximal recruitment, such as the push press, as well as some isolation exercises to focus on the medial delts and increases width, like lateral raises.
Finally, calves–are a notoriously stubborn body part to grow. Calves don’t grow, simply, because they’re hard to overload: your Achilles tendon acts like a rubber band, transferring energy during the lowering and lifting phases of calf exercises, so your muscles do less work.
To work around this, try a modified standing calf raise: pause for 5 seconds at the bottom of each rep and 3 seconds at the top, at the minimum; this limits assistance from your Achilles, so you can overload your calves for rapid growth.
By focusing on these muscles and building a physique more in line with what our ancestors considered desirable (and let’s be honest, we still do), you are on the road to a sexier body.
2. PUSH LESS, PULL MORE
In keeping with the ideas from above, the goal of training for sexiness should also include balance and symmetry. This not only should you train the right way, but also that you need to make a concentrated effort to avoid training the wrong way.
We tend to do a lot more work on muscles like chest than back, which can have huge detriments. With specific regard to appearance, lopsided training which focuses on anterior (front) muscles over posterior (rear) muscles leads to pretty ugly imbalances. In addition to this being a great way to get yourself injured, it can lead to a decidedly unattractive round, forward shouldered look.
Instead, focus more on the muscles of the upper back: lats, teres major, trapezius, et al. These muscles, developed correctly, will help pull your shoulders back, helping to create the broad shouldered look that men find powerful and women find attractive.
Try to maintain a 3:2 ratio of pulling exercises to pushing exercises–for example, 3 sets of rows, 2 sets of bench. Following this pattern, you’re less likely to develop imbalances or incur injury.
3. Lift HEAVY
Training heavy doesn’t just make you strong—it makes you look strong. Training in low rep-ranges (3-5 reps) necessitates the use of near-maximal weight (within 75%-85% of your 1RM), which leads to an increase in both neurogenic and myogenic muscle tone, both of which are important for building an attractive physique.
Neurogenic tone refers to the level of tension in a muscle in a working or flexed state. That is, how “hard” a muscle is when you are either training it, or just flexing it. Myogenic tone can be defined as residual tension in a resting muscle. What this really means is how good your muscles are when you’re just hanging out. Rather than some artificial pump, an increase in myogenic tone is a permanent increase in the appearance of your muscles.
Increasing neurogenic and myogenic tone also has the benefit of making muscles more visible at slightly higher levels of body fat – and there is a lot to be said for having your triceps pop out a bit more at 10%–just imagine how they’ll look at 8%!
In addition to the aforementioned benefits, heavy training also leads to strength increases, which has obvious implications for training in the future.
4. TAME YOUR HORMONES
Men, listen up: testosterone is your friend, and the more of it you have, the faster you’ll gain muscle and lose fat; high levels of test are GOOD. This much you know.
Unfortunately, testosterone isn’t the only hormone in the mix; there’s also insulin. And insulin (or rather insulin resistance) is a tremendous problem for most guys trying to lose fat. Meaning that to aid in shedding fat and creating a body worth seeing naked, we want to employ there are a few tricks to improve insulin management.
For supplements, fish oil, along with the myriad of other benefits, has been shown to vastly improve insulin management when taken in moderate doses. Another great option is IC-5, a product by BioTRUST, which is designed specifically to help with insulin.
A combination of an intelligent diet and training program, as well as a few tricks like the supplement recommendations above is a great way to make your endocrine system work with you to create a sexy body, instead of against you.
By John’s Special Guest: John Romaniello
John Romaniello is one of the most highly regarded fitness professionals in the world. He’s written for a myriad of publications, ranging from Men’s Health to Fast Company, and has been featured as an expert on a number of television programs. Romaniello serves as investor and/or advisor to over a dozen fitness and tech companies, and is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, Engineering the Alpha: A Real World Guide to an Unreal Life