As guys, being straightforward is respected. Women respect you if you’re straightforward, and men respect you if you’re straightforward.
Because we esteem straightforwardness so highly, we look for it in the realm of attraction, expecting women, especially very smart, accomplished ones to be straightforward with us.
However, in the realm of attraction, you will always be disappointed if you expect a woman to be straightforward—it is simply not their nature. Even a woman who is plain spoken and straightforward in business will be the opposite in the realm of attraction…it is not possible for a woman to be.
So, women will say one thing and do another, they’ll say they’re not interested when they are, and they’ll drive you crazy IF you look for straightforwardness. And, in fact, this is what happens to most men.
But if you understand that women have evolved to approach attraction with great care, you can see a method to this madness. What you must understand is, in the biological scale of things, the risk of reproduction to a man is much less than to a woman.
Men can sleep with multiple women, have multiple children, and not care at all for them and be minimally involved in raising them. While this might have been a good thing when man was barely crawling out of the primal soup, it is not in a modern, civilized society, hence the bevy of laws governing it. But even so, the biological repercussions of procreation are still much more severe for women than they are for men.
So, women have evolved to constantly test and be on the lookout for strong men who can provide and protect and who will continue to provide and protect. Women desire to procreate as much as men do, but the biological consequences are much greater, so they have to be much more careful.
They also know that men are driven to simply spread their seed, and increase biological diversity. They know very well that a man will lie through his butt to do just that, saying one thing, but then doing another. He may be straightforward, but it may be a straightforward lie.
Women constantly talk around the subject of attraction, speaking in vagaries, sending mixed messages, and constantly testing to see what kind of men they are dealing with. To do anything less risks their survival and the survival of their offspring. Once you understand and appreciate why women communicate this way in the realm of attraction, you can interpret what they really say and what they really mean. Few men will ever do this, which is why you’ll be the one successful with women, while they are constantly frustrated.
By Your Host: John Alanis
John Alanis has been teaching men how to attract the women they really want since 2004, even getting them to approach you first, no matter your looks, age or income. John not only teaches the skill of initial attraction, he also teaches the skill of sustaining attraction so men can continue the relationships they form with women. After all, it is no good to meet lots of women if they won’t stick around.
John is most certainly not a part of the “pick up artist crowd,” instead teaching men how to make themselves “naturally attractive” by suppressing unattractive behaviors and amplifying attractive ones, making yourself attractive without changing “who you are.” John served in the US Navy’s submarine force in the early 90’s, worked in the oilfields of Alaska and has been running his own business since 1995. The theme of “mental toughness” and “how to be a real man in an age of girlie men” runs through is writings and teachings. While not for the faint of heart or weak of mind, John’s teachings do get results, and he has many happy subscribers and customers.