I was in line, checking out at Target yesterday, when I heard the female checkout clerk say something that, to the average person, would be completely normal and innocuous.
When I heard it, however, it struck me as a very primal thing, a long evolved behavior showing up in a modern society that purports to have moved out of the caves.
Now, in the interest of full disclosure, I was shopping at Target for two reasons: 1) they have all the stuff I needed and 2) they actually give me a bag, whereas the idiots at WalMart now try to sell me one because the communists on the Austin City Council have outlawed plastic bags.
But Target is friendly, quick, they appreciate my business, give me 5% off because I’m a Red Card holder (not quite the same as an American Express Black Card holder, but not only do I get the discount, I don’t have to pay a $5k a year fee, and they even take it at the Starbucks in the Target).
I digress, obviously, although the mini-lesson is I was probably a $2500 a year WalMart shopper, and now I am a $2500 a year Target shopper.
The more profound lesson is this: the checkout clerk was talking to the young woman customer in front of me, about a drink she was getting, asking if it was good. The young woman answered that she liked them, and so did her boyfriend, and the clerk said this, “that’s great, something else you two can share together.”
Think about that for just a second. Think very hard. It seems innocuous and normal on the surface, but it is an echo of a long ago past. The presumption was: “because he is your boyfriend he SHARES everything with you.”
A young woman, in this supposed day and age of both men and women making their own way in the world, fully, unconsciously expects any guy called “boyfriend” to automatically share. And, in fact, the opposite is also true: if he does not “share” soon he will not be a boyfriend.
Now, this is not necessarily a bad thing, but it IS something you should understand about women, the biological desire to seek out men who share resources. This is evolved from the cave man years because women who tolerated men who did not share went hungry, and didn’t produce offspring. What was left are women who are very, very good at getting males to share.
This is something you must understand about women because it is an interaction on a primal level. I am a big fan of sharing by choice with the women in your life (although not of postnuptial forced sharing, mandated by the legal system), but I do think it is something you need to be aware of the importance of.
The good news is, you don’t have to “share” a lot—but a man who won’t take a woman out, pay for dinner, or bring her gifts from time to time is on his way out fast. A man who pays close attention to what he shares, does so deliberately, yet does not allow himself to be taken advantage of, is a very attractive man. Sharing is an interaction on a primal level…embrace it and control it, and she will share with you, what you want.
By Your Host: John Alanis
John Alanis has been teaching men how to attract the women they really want since 2004, even getting them to approach you first, no matter your looks, age or income. John not only teaches the skill of initial attraction, he also teaches the skill of sustaining attraction so men can continue the relationships they form with women. After all, it is no good to meet lots of women if they won’t stick around.
John is most certainly not a part of the “pick up artist crowd,” instead teaching men how to make themselves “naturally attractive” by suppressing unattractive behaviors and amplifying attractive ones, making yourself attractive without changing “who you are.” John served in the US Navy’s submarine force in the early 90’s, worked in the oilfields of Alaska and has been running his own business since 1995. The theme of “mental toughness” and “how to be a real man in an age of girlie men” runs through is writings and teachings. While not for the faint of heart or weak of mind, John’s teachings do get results, and he has many happy subscribers and customers.