Hey Guys—
Today’s episode is going to be longer than usual because I am going to comment on the whole sordid Ray Rice affair, offering a perspective you might not yet have heard.
In case you’re unaware, Ray Rice, now former running back for the Baltimore Ravens hit his fiancée, now wife, in an elevator in Atlantic City, knocking her into the railing, where she fell to the ground, unconscious.
Funny StuffsRice was initially suspended two games by the Commissioner Roger Goodell, and entered a pre-trial intervention program for first time offenders, after his now wife refused to testify against him.
When Goodell levied the punishment, he was criticized by many for being too lenient, and the NFL came out with a revised domestic violence policy, mandating a minimum six game suspension. Rice appeared set to serve his two game suspension, put the incident behind him, and hopefully become a better man.


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I had no issue with the policy revision, and thought it was a good thing—domestic violence is not something that blurs between right and wrong, it is wrong, plain and simple. It is wrong today, it was wrong 20 years ago, it was wrong 50 years ago and will always be wrong. You don’t have to think about it. It doesn’t change as society does. It is one of those things like murder, theft, and extortion that is always wrong with no questions.
Then, on Monday, TMZ Sports released a video showing Rice doing exactly what he confessed to doing, and the media went absolutely wild. The Ravens released Rice, and he was suspended indefinitely from the NFL by Commissioner Goodell. The hue and cry of every single sportswriter with a column and former player with a Twitter account has since reached an unbearable din, condemning Ray Rice and what he did, and bleating loudly about how domestic violence is a bad thing.
And here is where we will start today’s episode, because the sanctimony, moral bankruptcy, and complete lack of character of men in the media is beyond the pale.
It is said, and I agree, that a man’s character is measured by what he does when no one is watching, not what he does when the world is watching.  And if you measure individual members of the sports media by that barometer, they are truly, truly men of the lowest character.
There are, in my mind, two reasons why. The first one is this: members of the media make their living by the use of words, written and spoken. The description given by Ray Rice of what he did (and deserves to be punished for) matches the video.
Yet the level of outrage increased DRAMATICALLY after the video was released, with every member of the media making it a point to be SEEN being outraged.  
What is despicable about that to me is men who make their living by creating emotion via words were not TRULY outraged by what they read, that they only really started to express their outrage after seeing the video that words by Rice clearly described.
But that is only the beginning, and this is the real reason why I am absolutely, thoroughly disgusted with individual members of the entire media parading their outrage around for all to see.
Domestic violence is nothing new. It is certainly nothing new in the NFL. NFL players have been arrested for decades for domestic violence as bad or worse as the Ray Rice incident, and members of the media have been mostly silent about it. They most certainly have not shown the outrage they have shown AFTER THE VIDEO was released despite having HUNDREDS of opportunities to do so.
Have a look at this:
It’s a database of all NFL player arrests since 2000, with what they were arrested for. There are 759 pages of arrests, and hundreds of them deal with domestic violence to the same degree or worse as what Ray Rice did to his fiancée. If you read through even the brief descriptions, you will be shocked.
There are HUNDREDS of opportunities over the last 14 years for longtime members of the media such as Bob Costas, Chris Berman, Dan Patrick and every former player acting as broadcaster to be outraged publicly by, to bring attention to, but you heard NOTHING from them. A peep here and there, perhaps, but NOTHING like the outrage they are now making sure they are being seen expressing.
I will tell you why in a little bit, but it gets worse. Much worse. You see, there are famous players who have repeatedly laid their hands on women who have been given a pass over and over by the same members of the media now decrying Ray Rice.
Read this article about Warren Moon and his domestic violence case (with a note about settling a sexual harassment case with a Vikings Cheerleader at the same time):
Pay particular attention to this paragraph, and visualize it in your mind as you read it:
“Felicia Moon said that she had been struck in the head with an open hand by Mr. Moon and that he had also choked her to the point of almost passing out. Mrs. Moon said that she was able to break free from Mr. Moon and that she fled in her car. She said Mr. Moon followed her, but that she was able to lose him.”
Do you need to see a video of an NFL player choking his wife to be outraged or are the words enough? He hit her, choked her, and chased her, and yet the media members who are squawking the loudest today were SILENT except for a few blurbs at the time. This was 1995, not 1895 and there were plenty of media venues for them to be outraged through, including talk radio. 
Yes, Moon was later acquitted, but it was because his wife refused to testify against him. According to the police, she was clearly assaulted, yet the media brushed it aside, and it never came up when Moon was voted into the Pro Football Hall of Fame by members of the media who vote, the same members of the media who are now scrambling to see who can express the most outrage about Rice. 
I remember seeing the story back then, and I was personally done with Moon afterwards, referring to him as a wife beater every time after that. I couldn’t stand the sight of the man, and every time the media heaped praise on him, I was disgusted.
But that pales in comparison to a man the media simply will not levy anything but mild criticism of, Jim Brown.  Brown may have been the greatest running back in history, but he also has a lifetime of violence, especially against women. See for yourself, here:
Brown has, on many occasions, done what Ray Rice did and worse, yet the media holds him out as the Wise Old Man of Football, and he is still getting a paycheck from the Cleveland Browns despite a lifetime of  violence towards women.
Where was the outrage by the same members of the media when Brown was hired again by the Browns in 2013, a known domestic abuser being employed yet again by a NFL Franchise?  There was none.  None at all.  Sure, he’s been asked a few times if he “regrets laying his hand on a woman” but has he ever, ever been called to task like Ray Rice, despite giving the media a LIFETIME of opportunities to do so?
No. No he has not, and that is what disgusts me about the media, why I consider the individuals that comprise it to be men of the lowest character. I want to mention one more thing before I tell you what I think their real reason for being seen to be outraged is, and this is an important point.
People may say that, well, back then, there wasn’t Twitter and Facebook and Social Media and even the internet.  Perhaps, but there was certainly plenty of media to call someone guilty of bad behavior to task, someone like…Pete Rose.
I’m not a baseball fan, and don’t know much about the game, but if you say the name “Pete Rose” to me, I say back to you what so many other people who don’t follow baseball do:  “oh, he bet on baseball and lied about it.”
And when did this happen? Sports Illustrated broke the story in 1989. Yes, 1989, before there was an internet or cell phones or even much sports talk radio.  There were magazines and newspapers and radio and tv and…many of the same media members there are today.
Yet, despite this “primitive” media, Pete Rose had his reputation completely ruined, perhaps deservedly so (I don’t follow baseball, so I can’t comment on that) for betting.  Not hitting a woman, not domestic violence, but betting. This happened SIX years before the Warren Moon incident, and 11 years BEFORE the database I gave you the link to earlier.  
To this day, people still talk about Pete Rose and betting on baseball, yet no one, no one, talks about Jim Brown, Warren Moon, and thousands of other professional athletes hitting women. No outrage, no calls for investigation, nothing along the lines of the resources that were expended to investigate Rose.
The point is, there was plenty of media available to express outrage and call for change in the NFL and other sports. Yet as the years passed, and the domestic violence issues piled up, each one giving every single member of the media an opportunity to show their outrage and address the issue, they were SILENT, until the Ray Rice video was released.


Here is the answer, and it cements them as men of low character: in the past, members of the media could be seen, but not called out via broadcast media. But today it is different. Today, the common man or woman with a Facebook or Twitter account or email list can instantly call out, comment on, or expose any member of the media, shining the light of broadcast media squarely on them.
So like a bunch of roaches someone has just shined a bright flashlight on, they are scurrying as fast as they can to be PUBCLICLY seen expressing outrage, so they cannot be called out for doing what they have in the past.
And that takes us back to character being defined by what you do when no one is watching. And when no one was watching, when no one had the ability to expose them en masse, they did absolutely nothing. They voted Warren Moon into the Hall of Fame, they positioned Jim Brown as a wise social commentator and they said absolutely nothing about every single incident of domestic violence that was reported in the database I showed you earlier. Nothing. They did nothing when no one was watching, and showed outrage when the world was. That is low character.
And so, what will members of the media do who have been covering the NFL for decades like Costas and Berman? Will they appear on national television, resign their position and say, “I realize I have been provided with hundreds of opportunities in the past to make a stand against domestic violence, and I have failed hundreds of times. Therefore, due to my personal negligence, I have decided to resign my position so that a more socially aware journalist can consistently report on the things I have failed to report on during my decades covering the men who have committed domestic violence.”
Think that’s going to happen? You and I both know the answer—hell no. Instead the moralizing will grow louder, the outrage will become more pronounced, and the media will hold themselves out as the shining leaders of social change.
And then, when the next pay period rolls around, they will scurry to the pay window to collect their pay checks as they have for decades when they ignored the exact same incidents Ray Rice is guilty of. And then they will look for more opportunities to be seen being outraged, because men of low character know no bounds in what they will do.
Their sanctimony is beyond the pale, and the only thing you and I can take out of it is we now squarely know what men of low character look like and how they act. Just turn on the TV and wait for the criticism of Warren Moon, Jim Brown, Corey Dillon, and the hundreds of other players who have done what Rice did and worse. You won’t hear it. Ever. 

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