Many years ago I was faced with a dilemma. It was my senior year of high school, and I was trying to earn an ROTC scholarship to college, preferably from the Navy.

What Does Exercise Have To Do With Learning Attraction_2I thought it would be cool to get offers for all three services, so I applied to all three. Each of them required a physical fitness test, administered at different times.

First up was the Air Force test. I showed up with a swagger, a little cocky because I’d been lifting weights, and was sure I was in great shape.

The first part of the test was pushups, something I should have been strong in. The test started, and I started pushing.

After 5 pushups, I knew I was in big trouble. Big trouble. I barely cranked out 10, and the evaluator looked at me like I was nothing more than a waste of time, certainly not officer material.

The rest of the test wasn’t much better.

I was in a state of shock, and I knew if I wanted to get offers from the Army and the Navy, I’d better get strong fast, instead of being a poser. So, I called a buddy of mine who was really into fitness and asked him for advice.

He asked me what the max number of pushups was on each of the remaining tests, and I told him it was about 90 in two minutes (at least that’s what I remember from over 20 years ago).

Here’s what he told me:

“Start training push ups now, but do it by sets. Every workout, exceed the max, no matter how many sets it takes and how much you have to rest in between. If you can only do ten the first set, do 10. If you can only do 8 the next set do 8. But make sure you do 110, no matter how long it takes you or how many sets.”

I didn’t know what else to do, so I tried it. The first workout was tough. So was the second, and I was starting to get discouraged. But then a funny thing happened on the third one—I was able to do 12 pushups the first set, and 12 the second set before dropping down to ten the third set.

Every workout I was able to compress the sets, getting up to 30 a set, until I was doing five sets of 150.

When the Army and Navy tests rolled around, I did 107 pushups in two min for the Army, and 109 for the Navy.

I was ecstatic, and I learned a valuable lesson!

No matter how hard something seems to be, you can break it down into learnable chunks, with easily achievable goals. As you master each chunk, you start to string them together, until you’re really good at the whole thing.

That’s how you learn attraction. You start with easily achievable goals like making a woman smile, extending a conversation, etc. and then you build on your wins.

Soon enough, you string it all together…and you’re a master of attraction.


john alanisBy Your Host: John Alanis
John Alanis has been teaching men how to attract the women they really want since 2004, even getting them to approach you first, no matter your looks, age or income. John not only teaches the skill of initial attraction, he also teaches the skill of sustaining attraction so men can continue the relationships they form with women. After all, it is no good to meet lots of women if they won’t stick around.

John is most certainly not a part of the “pick up artist crowd,” instead teaching men how to make themselves “naturally attractive” by suppressing unattractive behaviors and amplifying attractive ones, making yourself attractive without changing “who you are.” John served in the US Navy’s submarine force in the early 90’s, worked in the oilfields of Alaska and has been running his own business since 1995. The theme of “mental toughness” and “how to be a real man in an age of girlie men” runs through is writings and teachings. While not for the faint of heart or weak of mind, John’s teachings do get results, and he has many happy subscribers and customers.